Scales Ain't Shit

Okay.Here is a thing that has been occupying a bunch of my attention: the scale.



On August 1, I added a new warm-up progression to my lifting sessions, one that about doubled my volume--not the load, just the number of reps I perform at any load.




At my very next session, my weight had shot up 5 pounds.Okay, self, I said, this is water weight from increased volume; I have heard that this can be a thing.It will go away.And I waited for it to go away, weighing myself more than is really a good idea.Every time I'm at the gym.Before and after my session.Uh-oh.



It did not go away.I held steady for nearly three weeks at that higher weight.And when it finally started to change, it went up.I put on my customary three or four pounds in the several days before my period.Okay, self, I said, this is water weight from hormones and whatever.It will go away.Maybe it will all go away after your period.



It did not go away.My period ended and I didn't drop anything.Not one of those presumably-water pounds.I'm currently eight to twelve pounds over where I was at the end of July.



And I can see it, too.My face is puffy.My measure-pants barely button when they button, and sometimes they don't.All of my clothes fit differently.The bulges around my bra band were driving me so berserk that I switched up to an old bra in a bigger band size.



It has been, for the last nearly-four weeks now, a daily investment of effort to make sure that I don't freak out and start restricting.I have not started restricting, though I have been quietly freaking out a little.Shit shit shit shit shit, my mental monologue has gone.I have mollified myself with repeated readings of articles about weight liftingDiet Coke is maybe the only dietary habit I have that I really consider a vice), and the owner was there.This man, who is fond of me at any size and has been so for a year now, lost his damn mind.He told me how beautiful I am several times and asked if I had been losing weight.



NO, deli man, I HAVE NOT.



But I believe that these two people see something that I do not see.I have heard of this thing happening to other people.The articles on starting, intensifying, or increasing lifting and retaining water suggest a timeline of weeks and mention this exact thing: you will look different, but you will not weigh less.I may not be the lone exception to this trend.This might be a "new normal" because muscles and intracellular water or whatever, or it might be temporary but not as temporary as I would like (fingers still crossed for this last one, because, neurotic).



So as this has ticked along I have started thinking about the role of the scale in my whole thing.I have repeated to myself the last sentences of : "Your scale is broken.Bring it to me and I will fix it.With my sledgehammer."Why do I need to know that piece of data?What if I stopped knowing it?What if I trusted my sense of my behavior and my experience of my embodied self?What if I stopped knowing what I weigh?What if I stopped knowing it forever?



Today, in the gym, I had already weighed myself, hoping I had finally started to drain (NOPE.ROCK SOLID) and was changing when a middle-aged woman and a young girl came into the locker room together.I assumed that they were mother and daughter.The girl couldn't have been older than fourteen, and she was totally normal-sized.The mother got on the scale and went to go change.Then the girl got on the scale and then went to report the number to her mother in a whisper.They discussed it in lowered voices; I caught the phrase "lose ten pounds" from the girl.



I almost cried.I don't mean to sound precious or pretentious or sanctimonious or whatever; I am reporting the facts of my reaction.I almost cried.I had a fleeting thought of saying something, but what would I say?It's none of my business.



I am not ready to say I am going cold turkey right this second.But I am really close to saying that.I think I have moved past precontemplation and into regular contemplation.What if I gave up knowing what I weighed?What if I gave up this fucked-up female compulsion, this fundamentally irrelevant data point?What if I started now to become the woman I hope will be able to raise a daughter who can be free of this particular obsession?What if I thought of this as a service to the child I was and the child I'll have?



Getting closer.
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